Getting out of that Negative Headspace
Does motivating others feel easier than motivating yourself? Read this.
It’s one thing to tell people to get out of their negative headspace and look at the brighter side of life; it, however, is another thing to practically walk the walk when you find yourself in the same pound.
If you are one of the people everyone looks to for help and motivation, well…you might know how hard it is to motivate your own self out of the dark pit of momentary self-pity and outright negativity.
I know how hard it is because I’m in that space right now.
Among the numerous things I dread doing, getting out of my own negative headspace is the hardest.
It’s simple. I’m am an optimist 80% of the time.
That simply means I don’t know how to deal with negative thoughts when they arise because they scarcely visit anyways — And when they do, they are dark and aggressive.
….but a cup of hot chocolate helps.
If you are still reading this that means I’m making some sense. I apologize for any typos in advance. This is one of those days when you write, publish and darn the consequences.
I don’t want to edit it and give myself an opportunity to change how I fell now. Maybe a few months from now I’ll be reading this with a smile on my face. Hopefully, I might have figured out how to get out of this space by then.
This just reminded me of something
Someone I know attacked me a few weeks ago and the only explanation they gave for their bad behaviour was “I felt you were the only one who could handle my attitude — I’m in a dark place right now”.
I was mad.
Thinking about it now makes me even madder (is madder the right word?).
But I understand
Sometimes it is hard for the motivator to be motivated and that’s okay.
Are you still reading? Well if you are then let me tell you why I chose to write this down rather than keeping it to myself — these are a few takehome messages:
1- I want you — yes you reading to know that no body’s life is perfect.
2. It’s better to write down your frustrations than keep it inside or let it out on others — nobody deserves to handle your bad attitude (not even that nice friend of yours you think “will understand” — they usually do mind.)
3. A cup of hot chocolate or tea helps. Drink two…three if need be and take a walk outside. Let the cold breeze work its magic.
4. Think about your next move. Rather than sit down and wallow about not having an answer; here I am writing this post. Whether it makes sense or not to anyone other than myself I’m writing it anyway. Try playing the piano or learning the lyrics of that song. Do something — anything.
5. Don’t watch Youtube. I tried and found myself lost in endless thought again.
6. Talk less. If you don’t have anything to say, nothing is the best answer.
7. Finally. Don’t put all the sorry emoji’s on your status to attract a pity party. It will only make you feel worse.
Just take one day at a time. Counting your blessing and hoping your mind gets back to where it was before.
That’s what I’m doing right now.
Will it work? I have no idea…but it’s better than just thinking about things that won’t benefit me.
I think it’s time for another cup of chocolate.
You should get one if you feel weary — it helps.
Thanks For Reading
I write sense…read a few less dramatic works from me:
We all have opinions — Why Don’t You Want Yours Attacked or Questioned?
Everybody deserves fair treatment and that includes questioning your opinion.
Anger: Psychologists say it might be triggered by low self-esteem.
Next time someone annoys you, think again.