Celebrities are entertainers both on and off stage. Their stories never cease to amaze me. The Will and Jada “Entanglement” saga had all media by storm for days unending. Everyone seemed to have an opinion about their relationship.
No judging — so did I
This isn’t about Jeda and Will. They have had more than enough traction already. I’ll like to focus on those of us who haven't.
You and I. Yes. The everyday people who have experienced or witnessed someone being cheated on; and just maybe cheated on their spouses too.
No one is a saint.
Cheating is a very common phenomenon today. It baffles me how most people seem to agree about how unacceptable it is, yet practice it — widely.
Whatever you choose to call it an “entanglement, relationship, etc.” the act remains the same. Very few people are honest enough to admit they had an affair. Those who muster up the courage tell half-truths while others just tell white lies and evade further questions on the issue.
Cheating has had a few controversies over its definition and meaning. Some people view cheating as a purely sexual relationship with someone other than their spouse.
However, others like myself share the view that there is more to cheating than just physical relations i.e emotional cheating.
There is more to cheating than just physical relations
An emotional affair is when a person not only invests more of their emotional energy outside their marriage but also receives emotional support and companionship from the new relationship — Sheri Stritof
Remember that chat you deleted to prevent your spouse from seeing?
Yeah, that’s emotional cheating or at least one of its manifestations. Don’t feel attacked…I’m not after you (but on a serious note…I think you should reconsider sending those messages next time).
Let's get into the reasons why you find it hard to admit to anyone that you have had an affair before.
Fear of public judgment
Nothing spreads faster than bad news. The story of a cheating spouse can fly around the globe in a second. You don’t even need to be a celebrity to be the topic on everyone's lips.
People always have something to say. Trust very few of the things said are kind and supportive— Jada can testify to that.
The fear of what others will say or think of you might just be why you haven’t said anything yet. Maybe you should fight that fear and be real, maybe you shouldn't. Its all left to you.
Most people worry more about what the world thinks of them than their spouse’s reaction. It is easier to make amends with one’s spouse. Editing how outsiders view you is like a mission impossible.
Uncertainty about a partner’s reaction
If someone tells you how they will act in certain situations, it's dumb to vouch for them totally until you see that reaction for yourself.
No cheating partner can tell for sure how the other person will react. The fear of the unknown is what drives most people into secrecy.
Some have confessed and had plates, spoons, jars, shoes you name it, thrown at them. Others got a silent treatment, maybe divorce, while some died mysteriously.
If you are skeptical about their reactions…you might just have a point.
The fear of the unknown is what drives most people into secrecy.
Maintaining one's Image/Personal branding
Image is everything.
This holds very firmly into today's social media world of perfectionists. Everyone wants to look and be perceived in the best light. News flies fast and images that took years to build can crass in a matter of seconds.
Some people don’t care about what others will say or what their spouse might think or do.
They are more bothered about their image and will do anything to keep it. Any deviation might affect their business and other dealings. The reason why I always say don’t trust everything online — most of it is scripted.
Not just celebrities care about branding today — just maybe this might be one of your fears (or not).
These are definitely not the only reasons why people don’t admit to having cheated… can you think of more? Share your views in the comment section will love to hear from you.