5 Messaging Habits that Make People Walk Away from You.
Texting is an art. One which has gotten the globe on a roller coaster of information flow to different places at all times. It has become a vital part of our everyday lives, from sending a message to a loved one in the morning to trying to get someone’s attention on social media. Texting is one of the most used means of communication for millennials.
With it being so widely used, it’s no doubt that a few people may have abused it both knowing and unknowing. Below I will share with you my take on texting habits that make one unattractive; there are basically 5 groups of people who to me don’t make the cut when it comes to texting and they include;
1 — The annoying jester.
Remember that time when you got a message and couldn't wait to know who texted until the person became annoyingly unwilling to reveal themselves?
A new message can raise the curiosity of anyone, particularly if it comes from an unregistered number. That feeling of curiosity quickly changes to annoyance once the jester behind the device is unknown to you, and shows no willingness to introduce themselves ASAP.
We have all played this game, it is fulfilling to stay silent hoping the other person figures out who you are. Sadly, a lot of people like myself don’t have the time to dance around for too long and play such games and the person immediately becomes unattractive.
The diligent thing to do is introduce yourself when contacting someone for the first time. And if you choose to play, make it as short as possible.
2 — The stammering typist
No offence to stammerers but that’s how it feels when texting with someone who uses excessive shorthand.
Stammerers are different in that their words finally come out even if it takes a minute or two. As for the professional shorthand typist, theirs get stuck somewhere; and we just can’t seem to get anything they write.
Don’t get me wrong, shorthands are extremely helpful especially if you aim to send an encrypted message or a very short one.
Shorthand just won’t do the trick every time though, especially;
When talking to someone you are not familiar with (they are not your friend and may not understand your half words).
When talking to older people (respect demands you send a clear and accurately written message to elders; they are not your peers).
When sending long and complex messages (if an idea is a multiplex on its own, imagine how hard it will be to decode it when encrypted in shorthand).
Generally, it’s a crime to send too many shorthand words in one message. If you must, make sure those receiving are familiar with your coding language.
3 — The busy bee
Remember that friend who replies to your messages hours, days, sometimes weeks later under the canopy of “I was busy?”. I used to be that friend.
It’s impossible to attend to everyone all the time; reason why some messages are left unread for days. One can be genuinely busy and incapacitated to reply at the moment and that’s okay.
However, curtsy demands to at least contact those who messaged you by either telling them you can’t have that conversation at the time; or excuse yourself for a late reply when you finally get the chance. It may also be ideal to call if texting isn’t possible at the moment.
Avoid falling into the annoying category of habitually ignoring others' messages without good reason.
4 — The publisher
My message chats haven’t reached social media…Yet, aren’t I a lucky fellow?
Social media has become a clustered host for gist, clout chasing and revenge; with messages standing as one of the apparatus used by many.
Countless times, I have stumbled on chat conversations of people I don’t know; and slowly indulged myself in reading chats I wasn’t supposed to be a part of. Not just me, but many others.
While some people manage to keep messages private, others don’t exactly share that view and publish messages online at will. With or without the consent of the other party.
I don’t consider those who share messages online as attractive and I believe others share this view. If they share messages of others, they will mine; and I don’t want a bunch of people I don’t know reading my private chats.
5 — The eves' dropper.
An ex once emailed my WhatsApp chat to himself. I’m pretty sure he spent hours, maybe days decoding the messages…that’s some hard work.
My reaction when I found out is a discussion for another day.
Your chats may not have been emailed. Maybe someone got unauthorized access to your device and read them. If you’ve been a victim, you know how annoying it can be. Not necessarily because you have skeletons in your cupboard, it’s just the irritating feeling of someone violating your privacy. Those who have this as a habit are extremely unattractive to me. I love people who respect privacy and personal space.
Most of us are guilty of one, or all of the above; if you others complain about this, it may be good to think of changing your habits. Moreover; it’s a new year.
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